(Note: I just plain skipped a week. We got back from vacation last Sunday, and there just wasn't enough time in the day to read up on the week. Forgive me.)
Week 14 - Love takes Delight
Enjoy life with the wife you love all the days of your fleeting life ~ Ecclesiastes 9:9
One thing I've picked up through this study is that your heart has to be led, not followed. Feelings and emotions swing through phases. If we simply followed those feelings, we'd never settle down. But by leading our heart, by consciously deciding to love without depending on emotional swings, we learn to find delight in our relationship.
Enjoy your time with each other. Accept them completely; love their quirks. Therapist and I are full of quirks, but we look past them (thankfully!). We enjoy doing things together, for no particular reason. Even if it's just going to the store, we enjoy the time. Not because we "feel like it"...but because we decide to.
Week 15 - Love is Honorable
Live with your wives in an understanding way...and show her honor as a follow heir of the grace of life ~ 1 Peter 3:7
One thing I've had to teach myself in this new relationship with Therapist is to set aside my distractions (TV, computer, whatever) and focus on her. Certainly, there are times that I want to do my own thing, or times that I need to do my own things around my house. I think she understands that. And likewise, there are times she needs to herself. Without those times to be ourselves, we'd slowly lose touch with what made us fall in love with each other.
This isn't a forum for me to list out what little things I like doing for her. Some are surprises, some are simple, common things. But they're all things that I enjoy doing to make her feel special and important. Because she is. As in the previous week's lesson, it would be easy for me to just follow my heart and do the things I want anytime I want. But my heart has to be led. And I like where it leads.
What is love? I may not be able to define it, but love is patient, it is kind, it is not selfish, it is thoughtful, not rude or irritable, it believes the best, and is not jealous, it makes good impressions and it is unconditional, it cherishes, it lets the other win, it always fights fair, it takes delight, and it is honorable. But above all, it is fun to love and to BE LOVED!!
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